There are six grandkids on my father’s side and only two of us (my brother and I) live in the same state as most of the family. Everyone else has moved to other states with their families, jobs etc. It has been years and years since we were all together in one place. That’s just the way life works out.
There is a family event coming up in a month or so that I just don’t want to go to. I love my family, the event isn’t that long, it is nothing personal. I just don’t want to go. Now, I have been raised that “sometimes you do things you don’t want to because it is the ‘right’ thing to do.” God I have lived that childhood motto out so many times. Combine that with my irish/italian guilt and my impossible self-imposed standards to not upset my parents and I am stuck feeling like I have to go.
Insert that the weekend is also a weekend that I am on-call for work (a once a year situation) and you see my quandry. Or maybe you don’t – because I honestly feel like anyone else would just be saying, “I am sorry I can’t make it”.
What is it about family ‘obligation’ that makes these things so hard?