Remember The Rules for Dating that came out back in 1995? You know the ones that went like this:
- Be a creature unlike any other.
- Don’t talk to a guy first.
- Don’t accept a weekend date after Wednesday.
- Don’t stare at men or talk too much
- Don’t offer to go dutch, meet him 1/2 way or pay on dates #1-#3
- Don’t call him and rarely return his calls
- Always end phone calls first
- Always end the date first
- Break up with him if he doesn’t buy you a romantic gift for your birthday or Valentine’s Day
- Don’t see him more than once or twice a week
….these “rules” believe it or not, have been revised for current day dating in 2012. They are only slightly more reasonable.
Well I guess I am not so good at following rules because I just accepted a date for Saturday night on Thursday.
Here’s my take on the rest of them:
Be a creature unlike any other – Whatever does this MEAN? I am me, I learned a long time ago to not pretend to be someone else – it always come out.
Don’t talk to a guy first – why not?
Don’t accept a weekend date after Wednesday – I barely know what I am doing day to day how on earth am I supposed to plan that far ahead, never mind expect someone else to. If you ask, and I’m free I am not going to lie about it.
Don’t stare at men or talk too much – I talk a lot. Period. And, if you are good looking, well, I might stare too.
Don’t offer to go dutch, meet him 1/2 way or pay on dates #1-#3 – I admit, I prefer if a guy at least offers to pay on a first and second date, but really in this day and age – I am not looking for a guy to take care of me and I am not going to write a guy off if we split a tab.
Don’t call him and rarely return his calls – Not returning calls is rude. I have no problem calling once but have enough of a head on my shoulders to know when I am calling out of ridiculousness – and try not to.
Always end phone calls first – Whatever.
Always end the date first – OK so this goes to the theory of “leave ’em wanting more” which I get, but if I am having a good time, I am not going to suggest ending it early just to make a point.
Stop dating him if he doesn’t buy you a romantic gift for your birthday or Valentine’s Day – (REALLY?!?!?!)
Don’t see him more than once or twice a week – Maybe at first, but if he likes me and I like him….life is too short for this many rules.
So Saturday night if you are looking for me I will be on a date that I accepted after Wednesday. I am meeting him 1/2 way at a restaurant, and I will probably talk too much. I hope he offers to pay, but I might at least leave the tip and if I am having a good time, I am not suggesting we end early.
Call me a rebel.